I absolutely know where you’re coming from.

For years I had the same problem!

I bet you don’t have trouble asking an old lady for directions when you’re in a strange city do you? What has that got to do with this? Everything!

Here’s something I created called: "The Sexy Fieldtrip In The No Ackward Zone"

step 1a:
Go to a city where you prefferably have never been for a day. The entire day I want you to ask directions to strangers – GIRLS AND WOMEN that is. Make sure you have a list of well known places and landmarks that people there know. For example: when you’re in Washington you’ll be asking the first girl you see how to get to the White House, to the second girl you ask where is Union Station, the third National Cathedral, the fourth etc etc. you get the idea okay? Make sure you include Starbucks and the nearest McDonald.

This is totaly innocent and you’ll be having a lot of fun doing it. Just act as a tourist (wich you are by the way) sincerely asking for directions. If you just ask normally no girl will act angry – more importantly: This is also easy for you – asking a girl what position she likes out of the blue is very scary, but asking for directions….no problem right? Also you have A GOOD REASON to talk to them. What girls/women should you step up to? Take a range from pretty sweet and okay to supersexy and hot.

Step 1b.

As you’re asking girls/women for directions all day long you’ll start finding it more and more easy to approach women – this is a flooding mechanism of your brain. Remember the first time you stepped into a rollercoaster? Pretty scary eh? But not so scary the tenth time in a row. So after 20 girls or so you might wanna spice things up a little like this: You thank the lady for showing you the way with a big smile (maybe you add a comment like thanks so much for helping me, I was really looking for that Starbucks!) you might feel it’s the right time to give her a compliment like: Hey nice jacket or those shoes are awesome, you say bye and walk away. CRUCIAL: make sure your compliment is REALLY meant and you might wanna pick a girl who has a piece of clothing wich really attracts attention. And voila, you made your first compliment, go on and give the next 15 girls a compliment too. Tip: women really like it when you pay attention to details, really small stuff. Like if she has this wristnecklace with those little figurines, say something about one of those figurines, like: that one really looks like the Eiffeltower. Maybe she’ll tell you she’s been to France and that might give you a conversationstarter. If she formally thanks you, you just say bye and go on. IMPORTANT: Don’t try to make any moves Casanova, women will be instantly creeped out if you act slimey or immediatelty give away that you like her, keep it C&F – Causual and Friendly – this isn’t even first base.

step 1c.

If you didn’t get creative after all those compliments or no conversations spontaneously happened, you might wanna start asking a little question like do you live here in Washington and what’s it like living here. Some of them will keep formal others will be happy to talk to you (but keep in mind: C&F)

You might also wanna make some comments about the landmark you’re looking for like: I heared the Washington Monument is much bigger when you’re close to it! -also a potential conversation starter.

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This all gives you a great advantage over all those other guys who only talk to 10 women max per week, that includes collegues, cashiers and there mother and sisters

How much easier would it be for you if you had this immersive expeiece of asking 30 hot women for directions, giving 50 a compliment and asking a question to 60 all in one day!!!

This is a great way to overcome your fear and you’ll also have a nice day out in the open.

You might wanna do this a couple times like every saturday a whole month.

The trick is to get a little bored of doing this, when you get bored you’ll broaden your horizon of what’s emotionally possible for you. What do kids do when they get bored in church or at school? They start doing things they aren’t supposed to do! I’m not saying you should do bad stuff, but your fear comes from your inner voice telling you silently that you are an unworthy person or that you don’t matter – eventually even that voice will get bored and you allow yourself a lot more freedom.

I know you are afraid right now, but believe me, if you talk to a whopping 500+ beautifull women who you don’t know – it will get easy. Hella easy! In fact so easy that soon you’ll be starting conversations in bars and clubs…..whooooooo the big stuff

A few complimentary tips:

*If you really have a nice click with a girl ASK FOR HER NUMBER.

Let me know what you think of this. And may the sun always shine bright upon thee.

Kind regards,

Dave – The Man with the Masterplan.
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My own experience.

These serve the purposes of making you better able to relate to people, and make you a more interesting person to talk to.

Don’t put women on a pedestal. They take a shit or two everyday, just like you. Don’t make any moment formal and awkward. They say that asking questions is a good way to start. If they don’t like to talk about themselves, that should make you feel a bit better cause they are not too extroverted themselves, or maybe not even that confident.

Don’t make looking for a woman your whole purpose of your life and the bane of your existence. Men who do that have it written all over their faces and it puts people off. Just enjoy the moment and any experience you have with the opposite sex and take them as lessons to be learnt.

Maybe you are love shy – that’s a mental disorder whereby seemingly normal guys, who can function otherwise, do not have the confidence or self esteem to seek a girlfriend. Some can’t even talk to women, period. Look up on that term and the resources available accordingly.

And finally I respect your decision not to rely on drinking, which is a false promise and doesn’t work in the long term.
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You mention you have tried hypnosis CDs but with little effect. The likely reason for this is that the suggestions on the CDs are just that; suggestions. The subconscious will only accept and act upon instructions that it agrees with and the fact that you continue to struggle with your confidence suggests an underlying cause, which hypnotherapy – should you be interested – can help you with.

Whilst hypnosis is most often used to help someone boost their confidence temporarily, Lesserian™ Curative Hypnotherapy works on what is causing the shyness. By locating, identifying and, most importantly, correcting the cause of a problem, the symptoms it has been creating are eliminated without the need for future back-up sessions.

There is further information and a list of qualified practitioners on the Organisation for Curative Hypnotherapists’ website at http://www.orgch.co.uk.
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http://www.cityhypno.co.uk
http://www.orgch.co.uk
http://www.londonstopsmoking.co.uk

We all want something. When you want something, you can be humiliated and teased. Try talking to a woman you want nothing from, someone you do not find particularly attractive and are not after anything from. Just talk about whatever there is on your mind, or whatever you think is on her mind. (within reason of course, it is often necessary to be respectful and contextually correct)

When you have learned that the talking part is easy when you want nothing, you can progress towards expecting nothing. When you expect nothing, you can then talk to anyone the same way as when you want nothing.

It is particularly important of course, not to chase a person around so that you can have a chat about nothing. You have to chat with whoever you come across, but you can be selective and choose not to chat too.

I can’t say that this method has ever worked for me, but then it depends on the objective.

I have heard that it sometimes helps just to say whatever is on your mind, even if it is a bit rude. For example, one woman claimed that a bloke who came up to her in a disco and said "hey, you have a nic pair of tits", was refreshingly honest, and the conversation flowed from there.

Breaking the ice, and the barrier, is all about communicating on the level of the person you are speaking with. Speak their language, and you will win their mind.

I can say that that worked for me, in French at least!

James
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You aim for nothing….you’ll hit the mark every time.
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If you are lacking motivation, then its for you..

http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.com

Its good

good luck
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